An Obstacle to Healthy Intimacy Online dating sites have helped thousands of people find love – as many as 120,000 married couples in just one year, according to a 2008 study.Much less reported are the number of unhealthy “hook-ups” and mismatched – even dangerous – pairings that occur each year on social media sites.#2 In-Person Meetings Occur with Virtual Strangers.You can learn a lot about a person through profiles and blogs before agreeing to meet.Because social media sites take away the immediacy of person-to-person contact, men and women are more likely to initiate contact than they once were.Distance, a busy schedule and lack of access to potential partners are no longer barriers to dating.Even though we’re able to contact a long list of people, social media sites may not be enabling the deep, long-lasting companionship that many hope to find.
A nervous phone call has been replaced with an impersonal note or text; a private break-up has become a public spectacle.
On the negative side, for those looking for a committed, long-term relationship, social media may be making it easy to meet people.
Easy accessibility to an enormous pool of potential partners may be contributing to serial dating (juggling multiple relationships at one time), promiscuity and infidelity.
There’s no doubt that social media sites, such as Facebook, Linked In and Twitter, have improved our lives in many ways. The pursuer would write notes or practice in the mirror before knocking on the door of their beloved; the pursued would sit nervously by the phone for the long-awaited request for a date.
It’s free and easy to stay in touch with family and friends, find a job, or boost the visibility of a business, but its impact on the dating world has raised a host of concerns. Both had to master key social skills and learn the basics of communication.