Why dating is haram in islam
In this case, the relationship should be called a friendship, not dating, and all parties involved should have a clear understanding of this from the very beginning without any room for guesswork or temptation.
Even then, what one day seems like just a friendship may develop into something more.
According to the Qur’an, however, sexual relations include any intimate physical contact. How can we justify holding someone's hand romantically or kissing them when God asks us to be extra careful by subduing our eyes/lowering our gaze (-31) and even avoid meeting secretly unless we have something clean/righteous to discuss (5).
The classic argument to support physical relations is claiming that the person is "rightfully yours." You convince yourself that the person you are dating, which happens to be a fellow Muslim or a potential convert, will be your future spouse which is exactly what I had done when I first had a serious relationship going with my wife of 3 years.
Typically, the word dating is used when a guy and a girl develop both an intimate physical and social relationship together.
The physical part is as simple as holding hands and gradually evolves into hugging, kissing and eventually S-E-X.
God instructs all of us eligible bachelors and bachelorettes to maintain our chastity until marriage (Quran Verses 5:5, 23:5-7, -31, -31).
Chastity is defined Quranically in 23:6 as avoiding sexual relations.
The daily challenge of obeying Allah and doing the right thing becomes harder and less active in your mind as you become increasingly attracted to your mate with your thoughts, emotions, and time.Although you may use good arguments to comfort your mind that your actions are harmless, your soul feels the energy being zapped away and becomes weaker and more vulnerable.The time and attention you give to your emotional attachment is the precious strength your soul needs to grow.(See: The Truth about Why Women and Men can't be "Just Friends" [VIDEO])There are some folks out there who date but due to factors like religion, trust, outrage from parents etc. That may be admirable to some extent but Lord knows there's this lingering feeling deep inside the psyche; the growing desire for contact and romance.When that's the issue, you should ask yourself one question: "What's the point of winning the battles of avoiding the physical stuff while your soul is losing the war from all the energy and effort that's being drained away and spent? You either remove yourself from the situation or end the guilt and get married.