Husband not validating feelings
In any healthy relationship, it's important to validate someone's feelings when they're upset. It’s easy to fall into the trap of taking each other for granted or just putting up with each other.One husband described this bluntly: “When I get home my dog is the only one who seems excited to see me! Focus on those qualities and strengths that you honor and respect in your partner.
I stumbled across this skill a few years ago while working with a therapist, and it has had such a significant impact on my relationships (romantic, professional, and otherwise), that I wrote an entire book about it to try to pay it forward. As I would relate an exciting or difficult experience to her, she would often sit there with an unemotional look on her face and, when I finished talking, look at me as if to say, “Anything else?They invited 130 newlywed couples to spend a day at the retreat and watched as they did what most people do on a typical weekend—prepare meals, chat, clean, and hang out.As Gottman studied the interactions of each couple, he began to notice a pattern.As I returned home that evening, I did as any healthy, productive, responsible human being would do and started mindlessly scrolling through Facebook.After a few minutes, I came across a link to an article on Business Insider titled Intrigued, I clicked through and began to read.