Herpes dating web
STI dating services are almost always unethical money-grabs that prey on what seems like a potentially underserved niche market.
This Silicon Valley opportunism is antithetical to real social change and progress.
These entrepreneurs may believe they have our best interests at heart, but they will never understand the stigma as well as someone who lives with it.
They do not listen to the needs and opinions of this community, and they take funding and attention away from real efforts to provide treatment and testing, and to de-stigmatize sexual health.
This is a play for legitimacy and access to my platform, and I’m super done with it.
As soon as a company like Truster starts talking about how they’re going to eradicate herpes stigma in a naïve and ignorant Medium post, I need to play bad cop.
STI dating services are a product of the stigma, not an empowering way out of it.
Not to mention that people with herpes are diverse.
These websites enable the self-segregation of the H community in a way that I believe contributes to our invisibility and inertia. Some of these websites claim to empower their customers.The relationships that start with the premise “Hey I’ve got herpes too, let’s get a drink!” are usually short and predicated on nothing more than a false sense of familiarity. They reinforce the impulse of scared, raw people to hate themselves and hide from the rest of the world. Not to mention these products are often cheap and tacky. Herpes dating apps rely on, profit from and contribute to the social stigma that I am absolutely against. Creating a dating app only for people with herpes feeds into the prejudice that people with STIs shouldn’t date people without STIs.