Dating too soon
Dating too soon after this type of loss is a recipe for disaster, notes Schwartz.
If the partnership ended in abandonment, you may also fear getting close to someone new.
There are few things in life worse than getting your heart broken.
Not only is it a supremely sad experience, there are all kinds of other emotions — anger, regret, bitterness, even happiness in some cases — that can be super confusing to sort through.
But, while it might not be an easy road, if you want the reward (finding love again), you have to be wiling to take the risk of getting hurt again, too.
If the loss of a spouse is due to divorce rather than death, you may still be coping with bitterness and anger towards your former partner -- particularly if the split was not amicable.Arlin Cuncic has been writing about mental health since 2007, specializing in social anxiety disorder and depression topics. She served as the managing editor of the "Journal of Attention Disorders" and has worked in a variety of research settings. In the "Psychology Today" article "Love After Death: The Widow's Romantic Predicaments," Aaron Ben-Zeév, Ph.D., professor of philosophy at the University of Haifa, suggests that widows and widowers may face stigma and criticism from family and friends when dating someone new.