Dating advice for tall women

For some, they rarely wear heels – even if they like doing so; for others, they may make self-deprecating comments about their height in a defensive effort to fit in with what men want.

In no way should tall women apologize for their height.

Recently, a colleague of mine, a successful psychologist in her mid-30s, confided in me about an ongoing problem she faces in her dating life: She feels that she’s simply too tall for most men, standing at almost six feet.

The issue she struggles with is the same issue many other tall women deal with as they look for a good romantic partner.

Here’s an example: (Smiling) “I know some guys have a thing about feeling uncomfortable with a tall woman.

Are you like that, or is that not something you really care about?

Both children and, to my surprise, adults, would refer to my height as if it were some sort of burden, or an undesirable attribute that would make me incapable of attracting men. When we talk about tall women, there’s what many people think of as ‘sexy-tall,’ the range of height where women are, say, 5’8” or 5’9”.These women have the best of all possible worlds: They’re tall to the point that it’s easier to stay thin or carry weight well, but not so tall that they face the stigma of men not wanting want to date a tall woman.” Discussing the issue directly prevents a tall woman from having to go home, internalize worry or self-conscious thoughts, and wonder whether the new guy is going to be interested in her.If you wonder, always ask; if you don’t, that’s fine, too.

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